Cheating in Relationships
There’s a bit of an outcry on Tots 100 at the moment about a post written by a woman about how she is sleeping with a man cheating on his wife and family.
Affairs happen, we all know that. We all know someone who who has cheated or cheated on, whether it’s a one night thing or an ongoing affair. What makes it so bad? The secrecy. The lies. The going behind their partners back.
What if it was discussed in advance? What if you knew your partner was going to sleep with someone else? Would that make it acceptable?
There are all kinds of honest relationships out there and I think they’re all bloody amazing. This is your partner, someone you want to be with. You chose them. So what is the point in lying to them? Be honest. You want to go fuck the hot girl at work? Ask. Just because you’re sleeping with someone else doesn’t mean you have to ‘cheat’. It is often said that humans aren’t built to be monogamous which can be justified by evolution.
The worst thing they can say is no, which is fair enough if they don’t agree with it.
Oh, they said no, but you really want to fuck her? Then leave your partner, and go do it.
Want to keep your partner and have more than just sex? You can be polyamorous and have many different relationships, not to be confused with polygamous which is illegal in the UK and US.
The key here is that you need the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. You can’t be in a relationship with John and Lucy if Carol thinks you’re only seeing her. These can be triad (involving three people), quads (four people) and so on. Same sex, different sex, regular or hinged. There’s a wide variety to this, but I’ll go into that more another day.
I recently spoke to someone who travels around the world, their partner also travels. The issue they were facing is that they’re hardly ever in the same country as they’re always on the move. Amazing opportunities for each of them, but what about the sex? As they didn’t see each other often, yet both had high sex drives they decided to see how an open type relationship would work for them. The idea being that when they are apart they can sleep with who ever else they want to, and when they are together they are together. The fine print including if one person is getting a lot more sex than the other, it will be called off on grounds of unfairness.
Then there are situations like Lola, who is a nymphomaniac and her partner H.H just can’t keep up! The agreement? She can sleep with other men to satisfy her needs.
So I want to know, what’s the dynamics of your relationship? Ever cheated or was it agreed? Or are you completely monogamous?