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Body Shaming

Posted on May 28, 2014 by in Dirty Little Whispers, In The Media | 10 comments

Body shaming is unfortunately something which appears everywhere. In magazines, on television, even social media is full of adverts to ‘lose weight instantly’. They want us to be more tanned, skinnier, taller, slimmer, smoother. Why? To sell their products. Celebrities are seen with circles drawn around them picking out their flaws in bad angled photographs. People are encourage to nip and tuck until they look like Barbie dolls.

For the most of us though, we have become ignorant to this. We ignore the adverts, say screw the diet fads and are happy with what we have. Proud of our bodies. It’s not easy to get to the point of saying ‘Fuck it’ though, not when everyone is against you. Even my Grandma saying I have chubby thighs. But ‘respect your elders’ and all, I kept quiet.

The thing is though, this won’t stop others from saying things. Some are brain washed by the media to think that every body is perfect, everyone is airbrushed and photoshopped and cellulite doesn’t really exist. They want a barbie army.

I’m lucky as I am part of such a fantastic community of people who are beautiful no matter what their shape, size, colour, height, sex, orientation etc. Being comfortable in your own skin is an amazing thing, but it doesn’t mean you always are.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” 
― Eleanor Roosevelt

I posted a photo for the Scavenger Hunt, and being honest, I was thinking more about how scruffy my hair looked than my bum! However someone found the need to comment on my appearance, voicing their concern. Their concern that my arse and legs were going downhill. Oh. You’re concerned? They advised I squat regularly. I was genuinely speechless.


As I mentioned though, I am part of an amazing community who all had something to say on the matter. Not only did I have support on twitter, there were twenty eight more comments, twenty eight proud voices who were able to stand up and say “Fuck you”.

If you do one thing today, make sure you go read the comments and feel free to add yours.

When someone challenges your body negatively or anyone else’s for that matter, you have the right to put them in their place. It is bullying and it is not acceptable.

If I see anyone being body shamed, I will happily lend my support and help that person have a voice when they feel they don’t.

To all you lovely people – Thank you.

Now I’m just going to say, if my thighs, bum and body offend you in any way, you don’t have to look at them. If you want to look at photoshopped images, go buy a magazine. I promote real people, with real bodies. Take a look at Naked Wednesday and you will see gorgeous bodies of all types. Also feel free to join in! I may add the occasional filter to my images, or play around with the lighting but the body is mine. Accept it as it is.

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  1. Bravo Emma, I read the comments earlier this morning on your post and it made me proud and happy to be part of a community that stood together and not only called someone on their behavior but also took the time to try to educate that person too.

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  2. Surely his/hers/its comments were so ridiculous they could only have been written in an attempt to elicit a response. Would it not be better to ignore it?

    • I feel if it was ignored, then it’s like saying it is okay.
      Verbal harassment is just as damaging as physical harassment.
      If you saw a person hitting another person, would you speak up and say something? Or would you ignore them and put it down to attention seeking?

      • Of course I would stop someone hitting someone if I could. Just as I would stop this person from writing idiotic comments on a blog. Its just a question of how best to achieve the desired outcome.

  3. *applause* Brava – well said. And I think you’re completely right: if we let this kind of thing slide, then it’s just another brick in the wall of intolerance.

    And I know I don’t need to say this again – and it’s actually beside the point because you could be the roundest, most glorious BBW walking down that hill and he would still be a complete prick – but his comment did leave me genuinely perplexed: your body is stunning, and you are slender in an utterly beautiful way. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise.

    Oh, and if you want a really voluptuous body for Naked Wednesday, I would be happy to contribute. Just let me know.

  4. Well said – and good Eleanor Roosevelt quote, too.

    I didn’t comment on the post (although I did read it) because there wasn’t anything I could say that hadn’t already been said. The support you had on Twitter was amazing to see unfold and take flight. I think you clearly know whose side we are all on.

    If you get any more negative comments, I do suggest dealing with them in a similar way. One thing I’ve learned is never to take these people head-on if they have an axe to grind. It’s not nice to feed the trolls.
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  5. Emma, you’re the best! You are lovely, articulate, brave, and you always are an interesting blogger. We all stand behind your lovely behind 100%!
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  6. I’m with Molly–my heart was warmed when I saw all of the comments in your defense after that shaming comment. I’m so glad we have this community and that we support each other!
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